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Now to permanence. It is good for the couple because it encourages the fullness of their self-donation. Commitment to a relationship can foster a sense of security and stability, leading to greater investment and effort from both partners, as well as positive outcomes. According to a study in the Journal of Family Psychology, couples who reported stronger commitment to their marriages were more likely to engage in behaviors that promote relationship satisfaction, such as forgiveness, positive communication, and emotional support. In contrast, the belief that a relationship could end at any time may lead to a sense of self-protection rather than self-donation, undermining the bond between partners. In a typical healthy relationship, both partners can contribute their unique qualities and strengths, with the man often bringing his protective and providing nature while the woman brings her nurturing and caring qualities. However, a general sense of a lack of commitment over time, can lead to a focus on self-protection rather than mutual support. Fear that their partner may leave for someone younger or more attractive, can lead to a focus on self-preservation, such as investing more in their own career or children, or seeking attention from others outside the relationship.
Permanence not only safeguards children, particularly during their vulnerable and formative years, but it also shields them from the harsh effects of divorce. Social statistics indicate that broken homes have a significant negative impact on children, as they experience poorer academic achievement, emotional instability, and compromised social functioning compared to their peers from intact marriages. As such, the stability and consistency that a long-term marriage provides can foster greater family cohesion and support, leading to positive outcomes for children. It is worth noting that the negative impact of divorce on future marriages cannot be ignored, as individuals from broken homes may start their own marriages from a weaker reference point.
For society, it is so evident. research shows that family structure is a significant predictor of crime, particularly single-parent households. Children from single-parent households are at higher risk of engaging in criminal behavior, particularly serious and violent offenses, compared to children from two-parent households. Efforts to support marriages and prevent family breakdown are crucial, as failure to do so can lead to higher crime rates, increased public spending on foster homes, prisons, and policing, and related social problems such as prostitution and drug use. It is clear that society must prioritize the protection and support of marriages in order to build stronger bonds and reduce the negative impacts of family breakdown on individuals, families, and society as a whole.
In conclusion, a committed relationship can provide a sense of security, stability, and mutual support that can lead to greater relationship satisfaction and positive outcomes. However, it is important for partners to acknowledge and address their fears and concerns, and work together to foster ongoing effort and communication to keep the relationship strong and healthy. By doing so, partners can facilitate personal growth and development and reap the benefits of a stable, long-term relationship.
As mortals, we all have our limitations and are inevitably susceptible to death. But there is one thing that should be strong enough to withstand the test of time, and that is the bond of marriage. We should all strive to practice, encourage and support the idea of “till death do us part”. It’s not just a traditional phrase, but a testament to the strength and resilience of love. Marriage is a journey filled with ups and downs, but it’s the commitment to each other that keeps us moving forward. So, let us cherish and nurture this bond, for it is the foundation of a strong and fulfilling life together. May the journey of marriage be one filled with love, growth, and endless possibilities, from the day we say “I do” until death do us part.
Written by Mike Ijeh