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As we journey through life, we often yearn for something more. Children experience carefree happiness, finding it in the laughter of friends and the freedom of unburdened play. Teenagers navigate the complexities of newfound freedom and societal pressures. However, during adulthood, the quest for true independence and the discovery of genuine meaning and happiness truly begins. Imagine a life where the pursuit of meaning and happiness is not attached to the amassment of things but to something deeper and more enduring. It is this journey we embark upon as we navigate adulthood and search for genuine happiness that transcends the fleeting pleasures of consumerism.

At its essence, happiness is a personal journey not solely defined by external circumstances. It springs from within, rooted in our connections, experiences, and personal growth. While material possessions may offer temporary pleasure, they do not guarantee lasting happiness.

I do acknowledge that material possessions are important. While they can still contribute to momentary pleasure or comfort, they are in themselves no more than tools, a means to an end. The instant we treat these possessions otherwise, our emptiness grows and slowly takes over our lives, inevitably leading to psychological breakdowns or self-destructive behaviours. The painter is never satisfied with purchasing the most expensive brush but with producing a masterpiece that outlives him. The same occurs in other aspects of our lives. For example, when we experience buyer’s remorse or the laws of diminishing returns. We always think we want something and that it will bring us a happy life until we have it, only to realise that we are still unfulfilled.

Life presents us with various challenges and hardships, which, instead of avoiding, we must embrace as opportunities for self-discovery and growth. Overcoming these obstacles, we develop resilience and forge a path towards genuine fulfilment. The joy of experiencing success after preparing well for an examination or getting a promotion after working hard is unexplainable. While these little victories play a role in happiness, we almost immediately realise they are not the destination. At the back of our minds, we ask ourselves, “What else?”

Genuine connections and relationships are vital sources of joy in our lives. The warmth of a loving embrace, the shared laughter with friends, and a sense of belonging within our communities transcend the materialistic world. These intangible aspects of life contribute significantly to our overall well-being and joy.

Perspective plays a crucial role in our pursuit of happiness. It is not the events that determine our fulfilment but how we interpret and perceive them. When we cultivate a positive mindset, practising gratitude, and embrace resilience, we can find joy when misfortune occurs. We have to come to terms with the fact that there will always be things we do not have control over.

Happiness is not a destination but a continuous quest for personal growth and self-improvement. It is not achieved solely through the amassment of material possessions but by striving to become the best versions of ourselves and pursuing our passions. A life filled with purpose and meaning is the key to long-lasting happiness. We must constantly align ourselves with the things we hold dear, question our lives, and see if they align with our values. More importantly, do our values align with genuine happiness, or is it just “happiness lite”?

In her book, “How to Make Good Things Happen,” Marian Rojas Estapé explains the importance of returning to values in this changing world. “Take care not to confuse happiness with happiness lite, which is sold to us as though it were only a click away. You know there’s something wrong with this materialist concept when 20 per cent of the population is seeking treatment for emotional problems.” She also suggests that; “in this constantly changing and rapidly evolving world, happiness must necessarily involve a return to values. And what are values? Values help us to be better people, and to perfect ourselves. It’s a very basic definition, but it serves as a guide in moments of chaos and uncertainty.”

While material possessions can provide momentary pleasure, true and lasting happiness lies in the intangible aspects of life. It requires a willingness to learn from failures and, more importantly, the courage to begin again. Furthermore, we must shield ourselves from negative influences hindering our happiness. Toxic relationships and environments drain our energy and distract us from what truly matters. By surrounding ourselves with positivity and nurturing supportive relationships, we create a space where genuine happiness can flourish.

As we navigate the complexities of life, let us unbox a new perspective on happiness—one that transcends the fleeting pleasure of material possessions. By cherishing our connections, embracing personal growth, and finding joy in the simple pleasures money cannot buy, we can initiate the pursuit of self-discovery and genuine happiness. Let us forge a path of resilience, aligning our lives with our values, and nurturing supportive relationships in this materialistic world. Together, we can navigate the pursuit of meaning and happiness, uncovering the true treasures that lie within.